The problem with offences, when they come, is that we tend to place a lot of focus on the offender. However if we take the time to listen to our quiet voice, we may find the reason we are offended, is because we believe what was said.
With me – it’s not a 50/50 rule; I flat out offend myself 😉
The more I practice owning my own feelings, the more it becomes my choice as to whether someone else’s actions or words offend me.
What if I became curious every time offence visited me? I would then see the offence as an ‘opportunity’ to know myself better, and be grateful… and uncomfortable of course 😉
However, I see what you are saying – and it is good, at times, for people to give feedback to another on their behaviour – it becomes an opportunity for them also.
.hartland. 
Please know that this aphorism is not about offenders of abuse. K xo
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Kelly, another gem. i love waking each day to encounter your clarity, the pure, human tone of your verse. tony
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Thank you so much tony – you’re very generous and kind with your words; ’tis a pleasure having you visit 🙂
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Perhaps there is a 50/50 rule?
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The problem with offences, when they come, is that we tend to place a lot of focus on the offender. However if we take the time to listen to our quiet voice, we may find the reason we are offended, is because we believe what was said.
With me – it’s not a 50/50 rule; I flat out offend myself 😉
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Still one needs to pinpoint to the other that offensive behaviour should be worked upon and is not tolerable in our societies
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The more I practice owning my own feelings, the more it becomes my choice as to whether someone else’s actions or words offend me.
What if I became curious every time offence visited me? I would then see the offence as an ‘opportunity’ to know myself better, and be grateful… and uncomfortable of course 😉
However, I see what you are saying – and it is good, at times, for people to give feedback to another on their behaviour – it becomes an opportunity for them also.
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… children should not be given the opportunity ‘to get away’ with something. That is bad learning for them. This is also true in the adult world.
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